Pre-election, a friends husband and my husband started a "banter" back and forth verbally about the candidates. Obviously they were on opposing sides and in the past their discussions have gotten heated, but they were always about the candidates.
Well hubby sent an email with a video about the other guys opponent. Not important who liked who here, as that is ancient history - we all know who won.
So from there it went back and forth a few times but the other guy started blasting my HUBBY personally. We are talking obscene words here and he was down right rude and insulting! We held off having plans with them because things got beyond awkward. I thought time would let things die down.
Well once hubby stopped emailing him (my advice) he started emailing ME! And it hasn't been nice at all. My husband can kiss his *ss and so on. Again, I thought "ignore it" he is an idiot and he'll go away. Also made me think - wow, how can my friend be married to such a jerk! I never mentioned it to her as we are friends through church and do things occasionally with the families. She isn't someone I would call to gab on the phone with or to do something with alone.
OK so the latest is that he is still emailing me! I had thought in the past that this guy was a bit of a drinker and it seems that he can only write me at 1:30 in the morning and he is all over the place. Things that are attacking and threatening me, my family and then the next sentence says "call us for plans!" Bottom line, this guy is not stable.
Oh one more bit of info - he NEVER emails from his home account that he shares with his wife. You know one of those joeandcindy@yahoo.com type of emails. That seems SO SILLY to me to have a joint email - I mean it isn't a checking account! He emails me throughFacebook. Geesh - maybe I should have never gone on there! :)
SO do I call his wife and tell her or just continue to ignore him? When I say tell her, I am 100% sure she does NOT know what he has been doing or saying. He is totally creeping me out and I just want him to go away. I mean it is like cyber harassment!
Your thoughts...?
Your thoughts...?
13 comments:
Have your husband email him back with a request that he stop bothering you. If he won't, then start forwarding the emails to his wife and if that doesn't work, get the pastor involved. Remember that the bible teaches us to first try to handle problems directly, but if that doesn't work to start involving others, especially our religious leaders. The one thing you cannot do is just let it continue.
Good luck!
I agree with Damama 100%. Margie
I also agree with Damama. I would also add that you should be able to block messages from him through Facebook.
DAMAMA_Thanks. Good advice to handle it directly with him however I cannot contact him through any other means except for that JOINT email. If I email him through facebook, he will have access to my page which I do not want him to have. :)
BRANDI_I did block him as a friend in Facebook, but I didn't know I could block emails. How do you do that?
OH and an update - he did request me to be his friend again last night. Seriously what IS this guy's problem?
Sorry, I don't have the answer. I've just heard that you can.
I'm frustrated by Facebook right now. Anytime I try to answer any request or acknowledge a friend, etc. a "loading" bar comes up and nothing else happens. This has only happened for the last month or so. I wonder if their programs are no longer compatible with dial-up?
BRANDI_I did find out that you can report someone once they send you an email. SO I can do that which will block him. Only trouble is I fear this will further escalate the problem. I'm working on an email to his wife and/or the phone call. I dread it, but it must be done. Thanks for all of your help and support.
Lucille, how awful for you. I agree with what's been said... block him both on facebook and email...don't know how to do that either except contact your service provider, they should be able to help. Good luck. You are in my thoughts.
Lucille,
It's time to send a copy of his email to the wife. I assume you've asked him to stop emailing you, so... she married him, let her handle it at this point.
Good luck!
EmptyRedBin!
I'm calling his wife now. Wish me luck and I'll update you all tonight!
UPDATE: Called the wife and she wasn't home. I didn't leave a message. I've typed out an email to her, but will let it sit for 24 hours and re-visit when I am not feeling so icky. Yep - caught THE COLD of the year. Ugh.
We can be miserable together. I have a bad cold too. My voice is rebelling and Jon has enforced a Mommy can't talk rule. I've been signing, using gestures, and writing. I haven't figured out how to give tomorrow's spelling tests yet. lol
Update, please. YOu just cannot leave us hanging like that! ;o)
Hope you are feeling better now. xoxo
UPDATE 2: Am waiting 24 hours or more to see if email is still the way to go with this. Got some other info on this guy from a very good source that used to work with him and he IS NOT stable. I don't want it to escalate nor do I want my house vandalize or something while I'm gone. Sigh. No more from him in a few days. Hopefully he'll move on. Still feeling lousy - scares me to last year this time when I ended up with pneumonia! Yikers. Keep me in your thoughts/prayers. :)
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